I was mid-conversation when the person I was talking to glanced at their phone.
No buzz. No alert. Just a gap in our dialogue… and, just like that – they swiped.
What I realised in that instance is that it wasn’t distraction. It was actually a response to their discomfort – because we had paused for a moment.
We don’t reach for our phones because we’re busy. We reach because the silence and the stillness exposes us. Unfinished thoughts surface. Past and current decisions swirl and emotions creep up.
Before we know it, the screen becomes the exit strategy. You check your phone when you don’t need to.
Here’s the uncomfortable edge: every seemingly silly little micro-escape like this trains your brain to avoid depth.
You see, clarity needs space. Creativity needs quiet moments and courage needs time to think.
Stillness doesn’t ping. Instead it lands with grace when you are ready to receive it.
What might happen if you let the moment breathe instead of filling it?
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